behind the aspiring homemaker //

About once every year, I, a young girl, sat on the edge of a chair at the doctors office swinging my legs beneath me.

Looking back, I can rarely remember a time where I wasn't asked the question, "So, what do you want to do when you grow up?" at the end of every visit. I didn't hesitate to answer this question. With excitement and anticipation in my tone, I would respond with the same exact answer.

"A wife and a mama."

In a way, I'm still asked that same question. As my college years approach, I'm often asked what I will be going into, what I will be studying, or what I want to become.

For the past few years, I've honestly tried to avoid that question. Not because I'm unsure or ashamed of it, but because so many people have a hard time understanding it.

Why? Because of this reason. I'm not planning on going to school after high school.

Even from a young age, I knew it wasn't something I really had a desire for. Because from that same young age, and even to this day, I knew what I desperately wanted to be.

A wife. A mama. A homemaker.

I’ve been blessed to be raised in a family where my parents always encouraged me to pursue something I was truly passionate about. Wether it be writing, nursing, teaching, whatever the case may be, if God had laid it on my heart and given me a desire for it, they wanted me to chase after that dream with my whole heart.

But, since I was young, I was obsessed with pretending to be a mama. I would rock babies, feed babies, take care of babies, sing to babies, if it was done to real babies, I’d do it. And although I fully realize that’s it’s typical for young girls to lovingly take care of their baby dolls, it was different for me. It was something so much more than just a passing phase of childhood.

It was my passion, my desire.

The sad thing is, the question I first introduced wasn't immediately met with, “Really? That’s awesome, good job!” Honestly, in most instances, it was met with hesitation. Even the response of, “Oh, that’s nice, what else?”

Looking back, those people gave the impression that my dream wasn't enough. Like I needed to become something greater than just that. And honestly, if it hadn't been for my mom and dad encouraging me in that dream, I may have grown up thinking that I truly needed to be something else. Something beyond just a wife, homemaker, and a mother.

I was reading Titus 2 the other day, and I came across this well-loved verse that greatly encouraged me.

"Older women likewise, are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled."

Titus 2:3-5

This verse encourages and inspires me for so many reasons, two of them given below.

1. It reminds me and affirms that my dreams and desires are God-given. Not

only that, but those very characteristics are commanded and encouraged in

God's word, despite the often differing opinions of others.

2. It shows that my goals and aspirations are nothing to be ashamed of, and

that they will always be enough.

I've never been one to be intimidated when people disagree with me, (just ask my parents ;) but it's so encouraging to know that God values what I'm chasing after, and that He will never ask the question, "What else?"

Trust me. . . .this is not a post trying to justify my dream, or trying to list a bunch of reasons why my desires are worth chasing after. Believe me, I'm confident in the fact that God placed these desires within me, and I'm not ashamed of that.

However, I know there are girls out there who have been asked this same question, who have given the same answer, and who have been met with the same response. I also know that not every one of those girls have many (if any) people around them supporting and encouraging them in that decision.

And if you're one of those girls, don't be pressured by others to change or second-guess that. Trust that Christ is for you and He is so proud of that dream.

God calls us all to different things. They're not always the same, and nothing that God has placed in your heart is of greater or lesser value than something else. Whatever it is God has laid on your heart, pursue it faithfully, and trust His leading in your life.

Other people in your life may hold differing opinions. They may not encourage or support you in whatever it is you choose pursue. But if you're confident in the fact that it was placed there by God, rest in the truth that his plans for you will always triumph over the opinions or ideas of others, and that they are truly perfect.

So, welcome to my newest adventure, The Aspiring Homemaker. My prayer is that it will reach those who feel alone or discouraged, and inspire those who dream of entering one of the most beautiful and worthy callings of life.

You are not alone, dear girl. And I promise that you are not the only one with that dream placed in your heart.

This place is for you. 💛